Last week, I hinted that my business was evolving and, I wanted you to be the first to know!
I’m excited to share that I am celebrating a professional transition into …Sexuality, Love, and Relationship Coaching for Women!
As I’m sitting here writing this, there is a part of me that is terrified!
Scared that you might judge me. That you might feel I’m being boastful, weird.… (fill in the blanks).
Isn’t it interesting that our minds can create stories that can stop us or scare us into playing small and not following our hearts desire?
One of the most beautiful things about being in midlife and menopause is that I've started to care less about what people think, and started paying attention to what I truly need and desire.
But, not too long ago, I can remember feeling scared, trapped, depressed, and anxious about my future, and what everyone else thought of me.
I was in the middle of a divorce, going through peri-menopause, and I was scared sh*tless to be alone. Plus, I felt like my body was broken. I had been in an unhappy marriage for 20 years and the truth was I felt like a failure. This was my second marriage and I carried so much guilt and shame with me.
A part of me felt helpless. But then, there was another part of me that kept nagging at me. A part that never got to be fully expressed. I desperately wanted to get rid of my insecurities and finally be free to be me… unapologetically!
I had done enough therapy and talking about my feelings. I wanted to heal and awaken a part of me that was in the shadows. I wanted something different.
I also felt that I was being called to do more and be more in my professional life. And, I had no freakin’ idea what that looked like or how I was going to do all of this.
I just had a feeling.
Ever feel like that?
So, I did what I teach my clients to do… I meditated.
Now, I’d love to say that I had this beautiful clear image and was guided to the exact steps; but that wasn’t the case. In fact, most of my meditations are void of images and I’m just left with a feeling or a knowing.
So this time instead of asking how or what; I asked to be presented with an opportunity.
That morning, I checked my email and saw an invitation and application to join the Tantric Institute for Integrated Sexuality’s Sex, Love, and Relationship year-long certification program.
I had been following the founder, Layla Martin, for years and secretly fantasized about adding sexuality into my coaching.
So, this invitation looked like the answer… I was so EXCITED!
But, my inner critic was screaming, “You’re not good enough! You could never do that! Who, do you think you are?”
I mean I clearly had failed in the relationship department… (Hello two divorces!) And, when it came to pleasure, that was something I took care of for myself (just like everything else in my life ;) Besides, I didn’t have enough time for a 650 hour course.
So going back to school felt impossible and couldn’t be the answer. Blah, blah, blah…as you can see, I’m great at validating my case by creating stories!
So, the next morning, I meditated again. And this time I asked for a sign that would be so obvious it would stare me in the face.
And later that afternoon, while reading a book I read:
"You have to go to school."
It was literally staring me in the face:
I remember laughing out loud and taking a deep breath because I knew this was going to be a ride I’d never experienced before. It felt thrilling, and scary!
But, I took a leap of faith and invested my time, money, emotions, energy and everything I had within me, and said YES to a year long journey to become a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach.
I let go of the "how," and I trusted and surrendered. And as a “planner," this was new for me.
At the time, I had no idea what I was in for. I just knew that I was being guided by a higher power and purpose to experience, embody and learn, so I could shine the light so bright that other women could see the possibility, and love themselves so much that they felt alive and free.
What I’ve learned over the last 8 months are holistic tools like breathwork, pleasure practices, trauma healing, meditative practices, energy work, sounding, movement, and Tantra to heal and awaken sexuality.
And through this journey, I've transformed my own trauma into my power, discovered what it means to be fully expressed and alive, released shame, guilt, and judgment with my divorce, and stepped into the erotic, playful woman that doesn't need alcohol to feel confident in being sexual.
And, my fear of being alone? Vanished. I really didn’t want a partner. Not that I didn’t ever want one, it was just no longer a NEED. I felt complete just the way I was and my status was no longer valued by being in a relationship.
This was a huge shift!!!
And then just like that… I manifested an amazing man! Everything I had ever desired. (But, that’s a story for another time)...
I’m really excited to have experienced this deep work, and needless to say, it's deepened, and transformed my coaching practice. It is my passion and purpose to help menopausal women awaken their desires: mind, body, soul, sex, and relationships–– and their results and feedback have been better than ever before.
What I’ve found is more women than ever feel sexually disabled, dysfunctional in their relationships, and most suffer in silence, longing for the connection and pleasure that is their birthright as human beings!
As they enter this season of life (midlife), their bodies are naturally entering a more tantric phase that releases creative, spiritual energy.
I believe our human sexuality and spirituality is the key to a world of magic, bliss, and freedom and my vision is to help women to have a rebirth and a profound sexual awakening so they can embrace this transition, deepen their trust in the perfect functioning of their beautiful body, restore their natural sexual essence, renew their spirituality, and reconnect with their partner.
And today I am offering YOU an opportunity.
If there is any part of you that resonates with this, feels curious, or is silently screaming “YES," I invite you to apply to be a part of my pilot program:
✨Awaken Your Inner Aphrodite: 10 Weeks to Passion and Pleasure in the Bedroom and Beyond ✨
CLICK HERE... lets chat.
I’m going to be talking about subjects that most people aren’t talking about Sex, Love & Relationships. And, I’m going to show you how these 3 areas can bring you to a whole other level of joy and pleasure you've never even imagined you could feel.
I mean if we can talk about ED and the magic blue pill why can’t we talk about women’s struggle in midlife when it comes to the bedroom and beyond?
So yes, I will be talking about vagina dryness, painful sex, night sweats, incontinence, depression, anxiety, and I’ll also be talking about sex magic practices, increasing your libido, demystifying tantra, intimacy and connection.
I’ll be sharing everything I do naturally as well as some other supportive measures that I find helpful!
I believe that midlife is a rebirth and a revolutionary passage that we’re only just beginning to honor. This is far from being the end. Midlife should be celebrated as a glorious new awakening!
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