How many times do we think about making a change, but never quite get around to it?
For many of us, the changes we've been wanting to make have been staring us in the face for YEARS. But life gets in the way. Kids happen, crises occur, and our goals get sidelined over and over again.
And listen, all of these obstacles are very real— but with the right tools, you can learn to move through them with ease.
One of one of the most life-changing struggles we can ever conquer is learning how to manage our thoughts.
I know it's not easy.
With our lives spinning faster each day, it’s easy to get lost in the constant inner chatter we have with ourselves, letting our thoughts run free like a pack of wild hyenas.
Most of us get to a point in which we don’t even identify destructive dialogues or take time to consider how our thoughts affect our mood, our mindset, our relationships and our lives.
Gaining clarity in our thoughts is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves.
To turn your inner chaos into clarity you have to make a conscious effort to identify your thought patterns.
You need to quiet your mind in order to hear what it has to say.
Maybe you’ve tried to gain clarity before.
Meditation is a great tool to achieve stillness and learn to gain more control of your thoughts. But like any new habit, it can take time (and various attempts) to incorporate any new practice into your everyday life.
Here are 3 tips to help you follow-through with your intentions and achieve greater clarity, consistency, and ease:
1. Get Curious To Find Gratitude
Turning self-judgment into curiosity and reaffirming your choices with positive intentions is one of the most powerful strategies you can use to unlock a more positive outlook.
Trust that every single one of your behaviors and experiences has a positive intention at its root to keep you safe, protected and loved.
By identifying what you are grateful for in any given situation, you can shift your focus to the positive and move forward.
For example, instead of thinking that you’re a failure because you don’t follow through on healthy habits, you can reposition that thought to “I am afraid it won’t work, therefore quitting will keep me safe from failure. I am grateful to my mind for trying to protect me, but I’ve got this!
2. Say “Change”
Yes, I am asking you to walk around in public talking to yourself. ;)
Let me explain why: For many of us and very much like the rest of our lives, our brains are on a multitasking overload. We go from thought to thought to thought, never settling on something constructive. It’s an endless loop that feeds the negative critic inside of you.
By saying the word “change” out loud, we create a disruption that rewires our belief system, distracting yourself long enough to simply experience the moment and become mindful of your present state. The more you practice it, the easier it will be (and the less embarrassed you will feel if you are in public)
3. Take A Leap Of Faith
Don’t wait for the stars to align to take action.
By now you should know that saying “I will do this when…” doesn’t work. If it did, you would have achieved that goal that you’ve been struggling with for a while. By jumping in at this very moment, even with small baby steps, you start conditioning your brain to get used to this new activity.
Give yourself permission to be a beginner, to figure things out as you go along, and before you know it this new habit that you’ve been struggling with for so long, will be an integral part of your everyday life.
Remember these recommendations if you want to change your diet, start an exercise routine, get a new job or relationship, or whatever other new habits that you’re struggling with.
You owe it to yourself to accomplish your goals and live the life you’ve always dreamed of.