One of the most helpful takeaways I’ve learned from some of my teachers like Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, and Brene Brown is to use gratitude as a strategy for success.
When Thrive Global asked Tony Robbins about his morning practice, he said:
"...Gratitude is the antidote to the things that mess us up. You can’t be angry and grateful simultaneously. You can’t be fearful and grateful simultaneously. So, gratitude is the solution to both anger and fear, and instead of just acting grateful, I think of specific situations that I’m grateful for, little ones and big ones. I do it every single day, and I step into those moments and I feel the gratitude and the aliveness."
In my own life, I've found it extremely important to cultivate a daily discipline of gratitude, which helps me respond rather than react to the ups and downs that life throws my way.
I know it seems counterintuitive to focus on being grateful when you're stressed about money, or just ended a relationship, or suffering from loss. However, gratitude is the vehicle that will get you from where you are right now to where you want to be.
By appreciating the abundance of what's in front of you, you train your mind to find more of it. By filling your thoughts (even for 5 minutes a day) with the feeling of gratitude, you'll have 5 minutes of your day of choosing love over fear, gratefulness over anger, and openness over being closed-off. Instead of just hopping onto the carousel of chaos every day, you start off with intention.
After attending Tony Robbins' Unleash the Power Within training, I learned his in-depth morning priming technique, and I can tell you that it has made a radical shift in how I show up for my day. If you'd like to try this for yourself, here's the video.
Below are a few supplemental tips to incorporate a practice of gratitude into your daily routine.
If all you have is 30 seconds; start there. The important thing is that it's something you can commit to. Make it so doable that it becomes a non-negotiable. Remember it is that first step that is always the most difficult. Your body and mind would almost always rather hit the snooze button, so make it so easy and pleasurable that it's actually sustainable for your schedule.
The important thing is to not just think happy thoughts but to think of an experience that made you grateful and feel it in your body. When we feel the experience of gratefulness, we will naturally gravitate towards that emotion, versus building the muscles of anger, fear, resentment, and doubt.
When you notice yourself becoming anxious, fearful, or angry allow yourself one minute to really feel into those emotions. By giving yourself the opportunity to feel your emotions, you aren't denying them, but letting them out so that you can hopefully find what's at the root of them. Then, give yourself one minute to focus on one thing you are grateful for.
Although a lot of people struggle with this because they feel that they need justice before they can rest or be happy, the truth is, holding onto anger, stress and fear only hurts you–– not the other person or situation. By filling your mind and heart with gratitude, you crowd out the negative emotions and give yourself the opportunity for better possibilities to emerge.
Starting my day with a disciplined practice of gratitude has allowed me to show up to the world in a different way. By being able to respond vs. react, I make better decisions, create better work, and attract the outcomes that are in alignment with my goals.
As Maya Angelou says:
"When you know better, you do better."
If you know how your thoughts and emotions impact your health and daily life, then you have the empowered choice to process your emotions and change the quality of your life.
I believe that knowledge is not power, but potential power.
It's the action that follows that is the real power.
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