Did you take the time to put together your New Year’s Resolution? Did you buy a planner? Did you take any action to move closer to your goals?
Now before you answer, I think you should know that most of us do not. And those that did take action— the majority will quit after the first 2 weeks.
According to a recent study from the University of Scranton, only 8% of all people actually achieve their New Year’s resolutions.
What stops us from achieving our goals? It's what occurs between your ears: your brain. A part of our brain is responsible for keeping us safe and what we have always done keeps us safe.
In other words, change is a risk we are hardwired to resist.
Further, when we set intentions, we're usually looking at what’s wrong with our life–– as if we're broken and we need resolutions to fix the problem. When you approach change in this manner, we're...
Fear can be scary, I’m not even going to lie.
What I can say about fear – or any other emotion for that matter – is that you can SHIFT how you PERCEIVE it in order to make it more manageable.
Fear comes in many shapes and forms; from fear of rejection or failure to fear of not being good enough or being embarrassed.
Maybe trying out new things makes you break out into a cold sweat, maybe the Psycho theme song plays in your head every time you see the scale… Whatever triggers that uncomfortable emotion in you, I am here to tell you, you can look at it another way.
When your trigger pops up and you feel afraid, how about instead of cowering, shutting down or looking the other way, you face it head on?
Making fear your FRIEND is one of the most powerful behaviors you can incorporate into your life.
This not only goes for weight loss, but for anything else that you struggle with, be it your job, your romantic relationships or standing up for yourself...
Let me ask you something…
Where do you want to see yourself in 1 month, 3 months, 6 months?
How do you envision your ideal life?
Close your eyes and take a moment.
Picture your life exactly as you desire it.
Are you enjoying an afternoon with your family in a gorgeous, relaxing location?
Are you getting ready for a hot date or a fun girls night out?
Maybe you’re dancing away with your partner during a romantic vacation?
Or even finishing your first 10k!
Whatever your dream is, ask yourself why?
Why is this so important for you?
What will having that thing you are missing will do for you?
What will your life look like once you have it?
When you go through the process of uncovering your deepest motivations, digging deep until something truly touches you emotionally, you have found your Emotionally Charged Why (ECW).
Your Emotionally Charged Why (ECW) is the TRUE reason why you want to change.
Sounds simple, right?
Not so much…
Let’s say you want...
Did you know that up to 50% of women are on a diet at any given time? By the time we reach our 40's, unhealthy dieting and deprivation patterns can wreak havoc on our metabolism, cause hormonal imbalances, cause weight gain, increase uncomfortable perimenopause and menopause symptoms, and add unnecessary stress to our bodies— which can speed up the aging process.
The good news?
It's never too late to start eating right for your unique body.
Nourishing your body with the right vitamins, minerals, habits, and attitudes can shift you out of the cycle of depletion, and onto a healthier path where you lose weight quicker, reduce cravings, balance hormones, restore metabolism, and relieve some of the most uncomfortable symptoms of perimenopause and menopause.
To do this, I like to start by reframing the concept of "dieting."
Rather than the next hottest "all or nothing," dogmatic, restrictive approach, I refer to "diet" as the overall sum of food choices you are...
Every year has its lessons. Whether this was your "power year," or one you're ready to put behind you, we can all benefit from carving out a moment amidst the holiday madness to get quiet and reflect.
Taking this moment can reveal some really important lessons you might be ready to learn, so you can move on from them. But if we never give ourselves the time, life can tend to repeat itself.
Below is a simple, yet incredibly effective exercise to help you summarize your chapter from last year, turn the page, and powerfully write your story for 2019!
This activity can also work well as a group! Consider gathering your girlfriends or family, and make it a ritual! In my family, it's become an annual tradition. We've found it to be a fun, special way to release the past and move forward into the future.
The weeks that I don’t have any food prepped, or my projects aren't broken down into actionable steps, are the weeks when I feel stressed, overwhelmed, and unproductive. These are the times that, if you were to look at me, you'd see someone very busy— but not fulfilled, and certainly not calm.
Can you relate?
I’ve spent hours reading books and taking courses on organization so I could increase my productivity and my happiness. The problem was I would never stick to the plan. I would start it and then I would eventually quit. I would come up with all kinds of justified reasons aka excuses.
Ultimately, I discovered that I had a belief that if I did block scheduling, I would lose my freedom. I thought would be put in a box and never have any flexibility or time for fun.
This was my belief and that's why no matter how hard I tried with whatever new planner or system I could find, I could never...
As I glanced at the selfie, I blurted out, Yikes, look at those wrinkles!
My daughter quickly said, "I don’t see wrinkles. I see years of smiling!"
This made me laugh for a few reasons.
First, she's clearly been listening to what I say and how I coach. Secondly, because I realized I haven’t completely embodied this truth for myself.
I’m a health coach for women over 40, and I’ll admit it— I still occasionally fight The Change instead of embracing it. Luckily, I have plenty of tools to bring me back into alignment when I experience moments of doubt.
With the passing of time comes physical, emotional and mental change. It’s inevitable, and yet most of us try to fight it. We hold onto old clothes that no longer fit us, drive our bodies into the ground even when we feel exhausted, deprive ourselves of the food we love by going on restrictive diets, avoid looking at ourselves in mirrors and photographs, and in general, run away from what our body is...
Do you ever feel like you’re too tired, too busy, too lazy to start doing what you know you need to do to lose weight and/or live the healthy life you want?
Your work demands too much, your kids don’t give you a break, your life is too chaotic. Maybe you’re too embarrassed about your weight or lack of experience to hit the gym; you just know people are laughing at you or making snide comments behind your back.
Here comes the truth: Whatever you tell yourself that keeps you from leading the healthy life you want is a lie.
In fact, most of the time outside factors play a very small role in limiting our ability to lead a healthy life.
The stories we tell ourselves shape our perception of ourselves, our reality and set our limitations.
You become what you believe.
We are the stories we tell ourselves.
Our perception of our experience, not the experience per se, shape how we see the world and the place we choose for ourselves in it.
And it’s not just...
For many women, confidence is a feeling that comes and goes.
It can leave us when we need it the most, and stray for decades before we figure out how to get it back.
Yes, real confidence comes from within.
But for most of us— that's a really tall order.
Usually, we think we NEED therapy, or to lose a few pounds, or to get a better outfit, or do more research before we have permission to practice confidence.
But guess what? The science says... NOT TRUE!
Keep reading for my top 2 strategies to find your confidence and begin practicing it right now.
To start, do you remember these two women from Secret deodorant commercials? Meet Ash and Emma, two ambitious young women ready to join the “boys club”. But not without first prepping in the elevator and pumping each other up.
In the second commercial of this series, we see one of them standing in bear pose while the other one cheers her on:
"You are a bear. You dominate, you're brilliant,...
How many times do we think about making a change, but never quite get around to it?
For many of us, the changes we've been wanting to make have been staring us in the face for YEARS. But life gets in the way. Kids happen, crises occur, and our goals get sidelined over and over again.
And listen, all of these obstacles are very real— but with the right tools, you can learn to move through them with ease.
One of one of the most life-changing struggles we can ever conquer is learning how to manage our thoughts.
I know it's not easy.
With our lives spinning faster each day, it’s easy to get lost in the constant inner chatter we have with ourselves, letting our thoughts run free like a pack of wild hyenas.
Most of us get to a point in which we don’t even identify destructive dialogues or take time to consider how our thoughts affect our mood, our mindset, our relationships and our lives.
Gaining clarity in our thoughts is one of the greatest gifts we can give...