When I look back now, I realize I was in denial.
I can remember chatting with a friend a couple years ago, and she referred to us as "middle-aged."
“I’m not middle-aged!" I snapped.
She replied, “Um… how old do you think you’re going to live to?...”
Ugh… I felt a knot in my stomach as I grappled with the pain of aging. My first thought? Aging stinks!
I could deny it. And, I could pretend that I was an exception. But the reality was, my body was changing.
And just like a kid throwing a tantrum (always at the wrong places and times), I decided that I was going to fight it.
I felt angry for all the time I wasted.
I was filled with regret for all the things I haven’t done yet.
I ached for all the moments I worried over stupid things. If only I knew then what I do now–– I would have enjoyed myself more!
Well, we all know how well THAT works....
So, while I can’t go back and change the amount of years I’ve been on this planet, I made a decision that I can look, be, and feel the healthiest and most alive that I have ever been… even in menopause.
Now don't get me wrong, this has not been an easy path!
It started with extreme exhaustion. And all of the sudden, I couldn't sleep. I went from having a diet and exercise routine "all figured out," to suddenly feeling like nothing was working. My body was changing, and I did NOT feel like myself anymore. My anxiety was at an all-time high, my mood swings were severe, and I started having full-blown panic attacks in the worst places. Like my local grocery store.... And that was just peri-menopause!
I’m not sure if you're aware of this or not, but, most women go through menopause for an average of at least 10 years.
Once I realized what was going on, I dove into the research. I learned that, while there are great new hormone treatments that can help with menopause symptoms, as a health coach, I also knew there had to be natural ways to find relief.
Over the past couple of years, I've been able to start sleeping better, and feeling less exhausted during the day. I've been able to include foods in my diet that specifically nourish women's bodies in menopause, and ditch the things that were causing me to gain weight. I have far less hot flashes, night sweats, and energy depletion than I was feeling before. I've also changed my lifestyle so my workouts are less grueling, more enjoyable, and actually allow me to feel flexible, energized, and strong.
And the best part? I feel at home in my new body, and more deeply connected and validated in my wants and needs than ever before. An unexpected side-effect is the level of sexiness I feel in my body, and the confidence and liberation I feel to follow through on my desires.
So while I know how daunting it feels to start going through menopause, I want you to know that you don’t have to suffer.
There are PLENTY of ways to relieve the symptoms of menopause and improve your quality of life and well-being.
After all, we have so much more life to live. And I don’t know about you, but I plan on feeling active, amazing and sexy in my body for years to come!
So in honor of World Menopause Month, as well as the unbelievable amount of women silently suffering from the reality of aging and menopause, I wanted to share the top 7 most surprising things I've learned on my menopause journey.
Get to know YOUR body’s needs. Stop comparing yourself to what was and find out what you truly need and desire now.
Create a morning routine that has more ease and less hustle. This is a non-negotiable for me and has completing changed the rest of my day.
When you think of "balancing your hormones," think balancing your lifestyle. Shifting hormones, complicated by stress, lack of exercise and poor diets with too many carbs, sugars and alcohol, put our bodies out of balance and then here comes the hot flashes, moodiness, and brain fog.
I used to be able to function on 6 hours of sleep and makeup for it on the weekends. Now if I don’t get enough sleep, I feel like I’m in a fog and almost like I’m hungover. And you can no longer make up for it on the weekend. So consistent sleep is so important.
Alcohol caused me to not only wake up in the middle of the night, but it also attributed to my moodiness, anxiety, and overall depressed state.
As women age, sex hormones can drop by 90% so by using the jade egg this can help strengthen the wall of your yoni, increase your libido, helps with emotional resilience, and restores Feminine Power. It’s a life changer!
Most people think Tantra is just for sexuality but it’s mainly about building and sustaining energy. And this is exactly what we need when we're in menopause.
I no longer try to "get rid" of my menopause symptoms, I now bring awareness of all sensations within my body and emotions, and guess what?
I’m able to liberate them.
“Our sexuality is more than the act of ‘doing’ something about it, it’s essentially a deep part of ‘who’ we are—To be fully expressed in our own sensual/sexual nature, we must equally have access to and be expressed in our emotional nature and vice-versa.”
– Saida Desilets
If you are curious about finding some support for your menopause journey, or learning more about jade eggs or Tantra, I invite you to schedule a FREE 60 minute coaching session for me: Discover Your Inner Goddess.
These sessions are gifts (for a limited time only!) for women just like you who are in the throes of menopause.
During this session, I'll help you to discover your deepest self, and help bring her forward through your body, energy, sexuality and intimacy with yourself and others.
You will walk away feeling calmer in your mind, at peace with your body, and equipped with a plan to embrace menopause. Plus, a Tantra exercise to awaken your sexuality!