What if the stress from your workday no longer spilled over into your home environment?
What if you could come home from a stressful day at work and feel completely present to your family and leave all your work angst at the door?
Whether you’ve had a bad day or you’re stuck in traffic, there are a few different ways we can reduce our stress and change our state.
While deep breathing is an effective way to reduce stress and I do recommend it to my clients, sometimes we just don’t feel like it. Sometimes, we feel like actually holding our breath, or being upset!
Yet, here we are stuck in the car after a long day of work and within a few minutes we must compartmentalize our work day and come home to our family.
So, the question is: how can you change your state when you’re gritting your teeth and you don’t feel like taking a deep breath?
Here are 3 of my go-to’s in concrete, doable action steps that take you from the stressed state of work to a calm more relaxed home environment you’ve always wanted.
1. Throw a Tantrum
Instead of trying to get rid of the stress, tension, anger etc., allow yourself one minute to lean into the emotion. If you’re angry, let yourself be angry. If you’re in your car, scream at the top of your lungs. If you feel sad, cry. By allowing yourself to feel into the emotion you are being in the present moment and truly honoring your feelings. Think of it like that toddler that has a tantrum on the floor. They are expressing and feeling their anger and frustration. So don’t hold back. Let it all out! By allowing yourself 1 minute you are putting a time limit so you don’t stay in this state.
2. Shake it Off
Now that you’ve identified what you are feeling, it’s time to release the energy and shake it off. If you’re driving, vibrate your body and shake off the energy from your workday. Blast your music, or laugh hysterically out loud. If you are standing, then have a dance party and visualize the stress-energy leaving your body. I love to do this with my daughter when she comes home from school. It is a great way to shake off the energy and connect with each other.
3. Mental Rehearsal
Take a moment to visualize yourself walking through the door in a calm state, engage all your senses, what does your house look like, who is there, what does it sound like? How do you want to feel? How do you want to engage? By engaging your senses in this mental rehearsal, you are training the brain to be in a calm, more present state. And even though, it may not go as planned, you are still setting the stage for ease; so you will be better equipped with the unexpected.
Reducing stress is not about avoiding it or pretending that it isn’t there. It’s about using the techniques that work for you so you can nourish your body and allow yourself to experience whatever it is that you’re going through and then release it!
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