Did you take the time to put together your New Year’s Resolution? Did you buy a planner? Did you take any action to move closer to your goals?
Now before you answer, I think you should know that most of us do not. And those that did take action— the majority will quit after the first 2 weeks.
According to a recent study from the University of Scranton, only 8% of all people actually achieve their New Year’s resolutions.
What stops us from achieving our goals? It's what occurs between your ears: your brain. A part of our brain is responsible for keeping us safe and what we have always done keeps us safe.
In other words, change is a risk we are hardwired to resist.
Further, when we set intentions, we're usually looking at what’s wrong with our life–– as if we're broken and we need resolutions to fix the problem. When you approach change in this manner, we're surrounded by guilt and shame.
While it’s healthy to recognize habits we’d like to update or ways we’d like to grow, it’s important to ensure the strategy we are using to implement change is an effective one.
Most of us focus on restrictions, grueling workouts, and making our lives miserable. If you are wanting to run your first 5K then make the process enjoyable. Instead of your brain telling you all the negative reasons why you shouldn’t go for a run, focus your attention on being present. Is the sun rising? Are there birds chirping or can you wave at a neighbor? What can you appreciate in that moment? How will it make you feel when you have accomplished it? Can you create a great playlist that will get you motivated? The idea is to be present to your surroundings and acknowledge that you are making a conscious choice and remember why you started.
Most of us only celebrate when we achieve our goal. And how long does that last? Usually, it’s a fleeting moment. To use the 5k example, if you train for 3 months and you wait to celebrate only when you complete the race, then your brain will tell you that was a lot of work for very little reward. The irony is that if only 8% of us ever achieve our New Year’s resolution, then the majority never get the chance to celebrate. Which is a shame because we are focused on the goal and not on the fulfillment. So, I invite you to celebrate every moment along the way. Celebrate when: you put on your running shoes, when you walk outside, when you beat your time when you go farther, etc.
Setting a health goal should be a lifestyle change that is sustainable, which means you need to be flexible. Life is not linear and our goals shouldn’t be either. Life can be messy and unexpected and if our goals are rigid then we will quit when it doesn’t fit perfectly. Most of us have an “all or nothing” attitude because we are trying to do things perfectly and when we fall off, we beat ourselves up and get frustrated and allow our brains to run the show. If we allow for some flexibility then we are making progress, which is the fulfillment that we all want.
Achievement is a wonderful thing but without fulfillment, it is an empty place.
“Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure”
– Tony Robbins
So the question is…
What are you going to do differently that will make this year extraordinary?
Not ok, not mediocre, but extraordinary.
What gets in your way of accomplishing your goals? Do you self-sabotage?
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Knowing WHAT to do does not create lasting change.
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